For the past few months Lucas has HATED to wear a diaper. Every time he’s in just a diaper it is off in less than 5 minutes. I try to not leave him in one because I know this and I have had one too many incidents where he has taken it off and pooped all over the floor… I’ve tried everything to make him keep them on except for using duct tape (although I just might do it one of these days… lol) It used to be that if he had any kind of pants or shorts on he’s leave it alone, but now he has mastered the art of taking those off too, so the only way to keep his bum covered is in a onsie or overalls. Anyway, last weekend we were in Dunkin Donuts in Boston waiting for a friend of mine to get there with her son so we could take the kids to the sprinklers. Another one of my friends works there so we’re pretty well known and they all love Lucas and don’t mind if he runs around inside, as long as I keep an eye on him of course. I really had to pee so I asked my friend if she could watch him for 2 minutes and she said no problem. Well, she didn’t do too good of a job if you ask me… I came out of the bathroom no more than 3 minutes later and Lucas is standing there in his shirt and NOTHING else, and he’s waving his poopy diaper in the air, he has poop all over him, and there’s a bunch of poop on the floor. I looked at him and screamed, and he just stared at me and laughed uncontrollably! And to top it off a Boston cop happened to be walking into the store at that very moment… Lets just say I was completely mortified and I won’t be letting that particular friend to babysit again anytime soon…
POOP!
July 30th, 2010Meeting Victoria
July 30th, 2010I will never forget the time I met Victoria… Specially because I was so nervious, it was like I had never seen or been around a child before!
Phill and I had been seriously dating for over 6 months, and she was just over 13 months old. We had discussed this over for hours and hours and hours! I was really looking forward to meeting her, almost from the start, but Phillip had a thousand reservations! (that I must confess I didn’t really understand at the moment, but now I see his point). We met at his house, and I remember being so nervious my hand were damp with sweat!! I kept dropping everything I was holding… She just kind of ignored me at first, and hung on to Phill for dear life!, and I remember thinking “Oh God, this s going to be a disaster!”. The first time I tried to hold her she started crying. Later we started playing with some cardboard boxes, and the Phill yelled at me cause he was planning to use them!, then we decided to get some lunch and she wouldn’t take anything! So Phill got all frustrated and said that we better went home… At this point I almost felt like crying myself! and the thing is, I’m usually so good with kids! I adore them and they adore me!. Thankfully little by little she started reaching out to me, letting me tickle her, and by the end of the afternoon she’d even let me hold her! but still, I was SO awkward with her! it was embarassing! you’d think I had never been around babies before! Not knowing what to do, how to talk to her, how to calm her down… I really thought Phill was going to come up to me any minute and say “You know what, I don’t think this is going to work” (I’m SO glad he didn’t obviously!)
That’s when it hit me! all the pressure I was putting on myself, because this wasn’t just some kid, just another friend’s child… This is the daughter of the man I love! and if everything turned out the way we wanted to, she was going to be my family! My step DAUGHTER! yikes! and you can imagine what a shock that was to me at first… I remember when we said good bye I patted her awkwardly on the head and didn’t even kiss Phillip, I was so out of my element!
Then I thought, if I want this child to be my family, I had better start treating her like family! and that made a world of difference! the next time we met like 2 weeks after that we really started bonding! we went for ice cream, I made her laugh, she made a mess of my dress and broke my necklace, you know, the whole thing! hahaha! But I’m glad to say we’ve been friends ever since. =)
Our Journey to Kindergarten
July 26th, 2010 It feels like just yesterday I had my little baby boy. I was changing his diapers, feeding him his first solid food (banana’s), teaching him how to walk, potty training him, and all the other things you do for your babies in their first couple years. All of a sudden he’s all grown up and starting kindergarten!! I can’t believe how fast the past 5years has gone by!
We already have almost everything he needs. His theme this year is toy story..lol…so he has the toy story bookbag,luch bag & shoes. He’s got tons of new school clothes and I’ll probably be buying more just incase. We all know how kids, especially boys can go through clothes..lol…The only things left on the list he needs are his student fee’s and 3pks of baby whipes for hand washing before he eats. Even though I don’t see how anyone can get their hands properly cleaned after playing outside just using a baby whipe,especially a small child who will be too hungry to take the time to get under the nails and in between each finger. I guess we will see how that works out soon!!
It’s just about a month & a half away, and my emotions are already all over the place..lol.. One minute I’m excited for him, the next I want to cry. I can’t even begin to imagine how its going to be the first day when I have to actually drop him off and leave him there withought me 
One minute I feel like crying and sometimes I even think of keeping him home an extra year just so I dont have to miss him when he’s at school..lol..Other times I feel like homeschooling him even though I know how that would work out. I can’t help feeling scared for him. Will he be o.k. withought me, will he make friends (he is pretty shy), will he learn as fast as the other children. One things for sure, he is VERY excited to start school and laughs at me when I tell him I don’t want him to go…lol…He sais he is a big boy now and he has to. I just want to hug him and never let him go.
They say time fly’s and boy are they right!! But is it too much to ask for it to slow down just a little from here on out?
The blogging mommy is Taylor
July 25th, 2010
The Blogging Mommy is Taylor (18)
Her Kiddos are Grayson Liam Thomas (9 days)
Her location is Hamilton, ON.
How old are you now and how old are your munchkins?
I was 17 when I got pregnant and 18 when I had him.
If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be?
Sweet, cuddly and stubborn.
What’s an average day like for you these days?
Wake up at midnight, spend about an half an hour breastfeeding change his bum try and get him to fall back asleep. Do this all over at 3 then 6 then at 9 I feed him change him put him back to sleep and have a shower, get dressed, eat breakfast and then feed again at noon change his bum do my hair and have a nap. At about 3 we’re up to feed and change him again I eat quick and we go for a walk or I do a load of laundry. I try and feed him at around 5:30 so that when my mom gets home from work he can get some grandma snuggle time while I make dinner. I feed again at around 9 while watching tv with my family and go to bed if I can. Then we repeat haha.
If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it?
I would sleep until I couldn’t sleep anymore and then go shopping to get myself some non-maternity clothes.
What would you say your parenting style is like?
I’m still figuring it out haha. But I think I’ll be pretty laid back as long as the rules are followed. I’m worried I’ll be a pushover.
What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?
I definitely have enough love and support in my life. I’d love more security though, Grayson’s father was abusive and I am filing for sole custody but until I get it I’m scared to lose my baby, because of this there is also enormous pressure on me to be perfect. Any little thing I do wrong could be used against me in court, including stopping breastfeeding as long as I’m breastfeeding Grayson has to be in my sole custody because he needs me to live.
How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name?
So far our family is unblended, it’s just me and Grayson and Grayson has my mom’s maiden name which I am in the process of changing my last name back to.
What are some of your pet peeves?
My biggest ones lately are strangers thinking it’s okay to touch my baby, I have no idea where their hands have been. The other day some random lady came up to me and kissed my baby I was appalled. And the judgments I get from strangers or when they assume he’s my moms baby even when I’m holding him and I have the post baby ponch. I also hate people who talk with their mouths full and people who over analyze everything.
What are the most unique things about yourself?
I am double jointed in my elbows?
And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?
Well this is my first attempt, I hope to be honest and for people to learn something from my posts.
Where is my baby?
July 25th, 2010In 1 day, 5 hours and 24 min my little baby is going to be two years old! Two years old? Where the hell did that come from? Seriously, I have no clue where the past two years of my life have gone. Looking back on it I’m kind of flabbergasted at how fast it has gone by and how much my life has changed, how much I personally have changed and how much my little boy has grown.
Most of you know about my story, but I’m feeling a bit nostalgic tonight so I’ll share it again… Lucas was born via an emergency c-section at 29 weeks gestation on July 27th 2008, he weighed 1lb 14oz and was a mere 14″ long. He was wisked off to the NICU before I even had a chance to see him. No one thought he was going to survive through the night and I was constantly being told to prepare for the worst. Well, my little fighter made it through the first night and the second and the third and after only ten days he was taken off the vent! Lucas spent the first 3 months of his life in the NICU and the day I brought him home was the second scariest of my life… I was so afraid to even touch him. When I was in the NICU with him there were nurses and doctors around constantly to help me but when I went home I was on my own and I was so afraid that I’d do something wrong or I’d hurt him because he was just so small and frail.
I know you hear this constantly, but the saying is so true that I feel the need to repeat it, having a baby really does change everything… When I found out I was pregnant I was scared about the reactions I was going to recieve, I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to do the things I wanted to do with my life, I didn’t know if I’d be able to do it or if I’d be a good mom. But those feelings were nothing compared to when he was born and the chanllenges that faced us then. It went from will I be a good mom to will my son survive the night, will he be able to grow up like a normal child, will I be able to cope with things if he does have a dissability or sickness? These are things that it would be hard for any mom to have to think about, and they are things that sixteen year old’s shouldn’t ever have to think about… But from the moment he was born these were the constant fears going through my head. I think that even if I had carried him to term I would have probably felt this way, like “am I ready to be completely responsible for the life of another human?”. Having a baby is a scary thing! It’s scary but it’s also the most amazing, wonderful, incredible thing that can happen to a woman.
I seriously never pictured myself at this age having a two year old, or even having a child at all… I was the good girl in the family, the smart and sensible one. I had plans, big plans, and having a baby wasn’t a part of those plans until I was at least 25 and married. But it happened. And if I could go back in time I wouldn do things exactly the same, deadbeat sd and all, because they are the things that gave me Lucas! He is my absolute pride and joy, the reason why I get up in the morning, why I live and breathe. I never imagined that I could feel this way about anyone or anything in my life. Watching my precious little boy grow, learn and explore the world every day is the most amazing gift I could have ever recieved, especially given the fact that I could have so easily lost him.
He has grown so much and so have I. When I had him I was still a scared kid, now I’m a scared adult! Lol. Even after having him I still saw myself as a kid. Yes I was a mom and yes he came first no matter what, but I still thought of myself as a sixteen year old high school student… But I soon realized that my life was a far cry from “normal”. While my friends were worrying about their dates for homecoming, or what party to go to on Friday night after the football game I was worrying about formula and diapers. And in the beggining I kind of resented the fact that I couldn’t do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted anymore. But as time went on I realized that I had soooooo much more than everyone else, I had someone at home who relied on me, who loved me unconditionally, who I got to go home to every night and cuddle with, who could make me smile no matter how rough things were! And of course it wasn’t (and still isn’t) always easy, because with the joys and wonders of motherfood also comes the moments when you just want to curl up in a ball on the floor crying or when you want to rip your hair out… But even with those moments the pros outweigh the cons one thousand times over.
Today Lucas is a crazy, happy, rambuncious, naughty, fun, loving, sweet, amazing little boy. He’s small but absolutely perfect in every way and I look at him every day and I’m so amazed at how far he’s come. I’m amazed at how far we’ve both come really… From a one pound baby to a crazy little boy and from a scared and lonely teenager to a mature, loving mother. I never thought that diapers and tanturms would be my life at 18 years old, but I’d take them any day over not having my baby in my arms!
What led me here…plastic surgery: pre-consultation
July 25th, 2010I remember myself at 9 or 10 years old, stick thin, standing in front of the mirror with my swim suit on and water balloons stuffed in the top. Even then I loved just the idea of it. One day I would be showing off my womanly shape that I was certain would come with time. As the years passed and I grew, I began to realized that the voluptuous shape I had been infatuated with would never be my reality, at least not naturally.
Before the birth of my first son I was a small B cup. Nothing tiny, but nothing large either. Right after his birth I was a full D. I was fortunate enough to lose my baby weight very quickly after he was born, and I was left with the figure I had always dreamed of…up untill I stopped nursing of course. This story is also true for what happened with my second son, but once I stopped nursing instead of the B cup I was before, I was left with hardly an A. Looking completely deflated, and certainly not looking like a 20 year old typically would. So there I was again, standing in front the mirror, looking far to similar to 10 years earlier, only this time I wasn’t a child, I was a woman, but I certainly didn’t look like one.
With a life long wish for curves that started before I can remember, and 2 beautiful child later, here I am, three days away from my surgery consultation. I would love to say that I am prepared, but I am honestly very nervous, even after countless late nights of research and conversations with my husband that lasted hours. Don’t get me wrong, I am also incredibly excited. I feel like a child waiting to open presents on Christmas morning, giddy with excitement and anxious to see what is to come.
Blogging Mommy Kayla :)
July 24th, 2010The Blogging Mommy is Kayla
Her Kiddos are Jordan Kurtis & Miley Ashley
Her location is Moncton,NB
How old are you now and how old are your munchkins?
I am 22, Jordan is 5 and Miley is 5months 
If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be?
Jordan is Smart, Funny, Loving
Miley is Beautiful, cuddly, Loving
What’s an average day like for you these days?
Depends on the weather, Miley can’t use sunscrean yet so we can’t go outside if its too hot which it has been so during the day we usually just chill out watching cartoons,crafts,go shopping,play games, then after Ryan goes to work at 4 we make dinner, eat, and by 6 – 6:30 when it starts to cool down Miley and I sit on the step while Jordy plays at the park in front of the house with a couple little girls who live down the street or if its shady enough I bring Miley to the park too and put her on the swing. Then we come inside, kids get a bath and we watch a movie or something on t.v. and go to sleep until Ryan gets off work and then I wake up again and watch t.v. with him for a bit, then go back to bed.
If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it?
Hmmm…well its been so long since I’ve been totally kid free that I dont even know what I’d do..lol..Definetly Shopping, probably go to a spa, depending on how much money I got from the lottery I would look at houses and if I did have enough to buy one I’d do that and use my shopping trip to also pick out new furniture and decorative things for the house…lol…If not I’d still probably use the shopping trip to redecorate this place..after getting new clothes for all of us and some awsome toys for the kids..lol…
What would you say your parenting style is like?
I’m not sure I really have a style. I kinda just go with the flow. I wouldn’t say I’m “strict” but definetly do not allow Jordan to do half the things the parents around here let their children do. Whatever my style is it must be working because Jordan is polite,well mannered and when it comes to the important rules he listens. He does know how to test my patience and sometimes likes to see how far he can push me but over all he’s a great kid & I’m sure Miley will turn out just as great <3 One thing I do not believe in is beating your kids, I do spank Jordan’s bum sometimes if he’s getting really out of hand but most of the time a simple time out and explanation of what he did wrong and why he can’t do it works good for us.
What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?
I feel just by having my two amazing children that I have everything anyone could ask for. I would love for Ryan to spend less time sleeping and more time with the family. I’d also love to have our own house or at least a place in a different neighborhood but as long as I have my children,Ryan, & my family I’m happy
How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name?
I am not with Jordan’s bio-dad. Since he wasnt around for my pregnancy or the first year and a half of Jordan’s life (besides the birth and maybe 10minutes when he was 2 days old) Jordan has MY last name. I am with Ryan (Miley’s dad) and Miley has his last name. Sometimes I feel bad for Jordan because if Ryan and I get married in the future Jordan will be the only one withought his last name..BUT Jordan thinks its cool that he has the same last name as my brother so I dont think he would care..lol..
What are some of your pet peeves?
hmmm… being interupted while I’m talking, parents who don’t put their children first, when parents let their children run around unsupervised, people who are rude to the elderly & also the elderly who think they can be rude to younger people just because they are old, when adults can’t clean up after themselves and leave nasty messes all over the place right after I’ve cleaned (*cough* Ryan *cough* lol), when people walk all over my house with their shoes on (unless its for a good reason like moving something into the house or out of the house), people who dont have common curtesy, people who stand in the middle of the aisle talking while I’m trying to shop..lol..& I could probably go on but I’ll stop here..lol
What are the most unique things about yourself?
I can do a bendy thing with my fingers that freaks most people out..lol…I’m so complicated sometimes I confuse myself…I’m left handed but can only use scissors with my right hand & I can also write with my right hand (if I go slow almost as good as with my left)…and I can pick things up with my feet..lol…
And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?
This is my first blog so I’m not sure yet..lol…
The Infamous Baby Fever!
July 22nd, 2010I got it! and baaad!
What is this thing that makes you feel like “you’re missing a child in your life”?? This thing that listens to no reasons… There is this thing, a Monster, we call Baby Fever, and let me tell you, it can eat you up from inside if you let it! This longing to feel that life inside you… This pull to your stomach every time you see a tinny bitty baby, and that weird feeling when you see a pregnant woman and can’t help thinking “Why can’t that be me?”
Is it an Ego thing? the empowerment of feeling, of knowing, you are creating something so amazing as A NEW LIFE… but that sounds kind of selfish, doesn’t it? though this Monster IS selfish, because it doesn’t care if it’s right or wrong, or if it fits into your plans or your lifestyle! it comes at you and takes over anyway!
Is it loneliness? a void to fill?? I honestly don’t think so! It’s so much deeper than that! It’s like falling in love, you can’t help it, but you *know* when you’ve reached that point… It’s not that you want something more is that you know you are missing something! and it’s a battle of wether or not to go after it! and let me tell you, it isn’t a fair battle at all!
Like I said, the Monster listens to no reasons! it wants what it wants, and won’t settle! You can try to reason with it, to fool it, to ignore it, you can even try to blackmail it! and still, most of the times it will overpower you!. Now, this doesn’t mean it is automatically a lost battle! because thankfully every Monster has music to sooth it, to put it to sleep, so you can go on about your life, and almost forget about the Monster asleep on your basement! But beware, because when it wakes up again, it’s the same battle all over again! and with this Monster, at least for me, you can win the battle(s) but you won’t win the war!
and then, who can you talk to about it? There are always the ones who’ll think you are insane! who will tell you that your life is perfect just as it is, and to wait for X and X first… and then X may or may not come, and X becomes Y and becomes Z, cause there will never be a “perfect time” to have a baby come a give a 180° turn to your “perfect life” (if you’re so lucky to have such thing!)… and then of course there are the ones who “support” you, and get all excited with you, and say that you can do it! (just like they do) but they are not in your shoes, are they? they don’t know that deep down what you really want is to be talked out of it, because you know in your head that you really DO NEED your X,Y and Z first!
This is a hard Monster to fight off! Specially when it attacks you at a young age! Thankfully you don’t have to fight it off forever, one way or the other the time will come for you to surrender to It, and you know it, and that’s what I keep telling myself… and it will be sooo worth it in the end!! You won! You get your Reward! Enjoy your Prize!!
… until the Monster strikes again!
Alexis
July 21st, 2010The Blogging Mommy is Alexis (18)
Her Kiddos are Lucas William (2)
Her location is Boston, Ma.
How old are you now and how old are your munchkins?
I had Lucas 3 months after my 16th birthday, and I’m 18 now. Lucas turns 2 on July 27th!
If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be?
Crazy, Energetic, Loving
What’s an average day like for you these days?
Every day is different during the summer, it all depends on if and when I have to work, what our plans for the day are, etc. Lucas usually wakes me up by crawling into bed with me around 6:30-7am, we cuddle for a while and watch Einsteins or Mickey, then we get up around 8 and have breakfast, but after that we have no typical day! We try to spend as much time as possible outside, either by the pool or at the park…
If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it?
I’d sleep in (sleeping “late” for me is like 8:30) and then I’d go out for breakfast with a bunch of family and friends. Then I’d take my mom, sisters, and a few of my cousins and friends to a spa for a few hours of pampering and girl talk. After that would be a shopping trip where I actually buy something for myself (although I’d probably end up buying a ton of stuff for Lucas too…) And then I’d meet up with Dave for a nice dinner at one of my favorite restaurants, followed by a concert!
What would you say your parenting style is like?
I think I’m pretty laid back, but I also make sure my child is disciplined when he needs to be. I’m very loving and affectionate, but I also want Lucas to know that I’m in charge. I respect him and expect to be respected in return. I try not to yell and be too overbearing, but sometimes I do come accross that way, Lucas just seems to know how to perfectly push my buttons, but it’s something I’m working on…
What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of?
I have an amazing support system behind me. My parents are my twin pillars and without them I would be so lost. And my siblings are my best friends. I would definitely say that I have enough love and laughter in my life. I can’t think of anything I could want more or less of…
How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name?
I am not with Lucas’s father, when I told him I was pregnant he made it very clear that he wanted nothing to do with either of us, and except for one random phone call a few months back, I haven’t heard from him or seen him since that day… Lucas has my last name.
What are some of your pet peeves?
I have quite a few of these… 1. Stupid, ignorant people, especially ones who think young mothers are bad mothers because of their age… 2. Bad drivers 3. Not replacing the roll of toilet paper after finishing the last one 4. People who chew with their mouthes open 5. People who talk during movies/TV shows. I hate missing something because people were talking…
What are the most unique things about yourself?
I don’t think I’m like most other 18 year old girls. And I’m not talking just about the fact that I have a 2 year old… I have never been into the things girls my age have liked, I never got into pop music, I always liked classic rock… I never got into the fads and I’m not into fashion. I have always gone to the beat of a different drum I guess. I always tell people that I should have been born in the 60’s… I’m just an old soul and I think I’m way more mature than most other people my age…
And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style?
I’ve never actually written a blog before, so I’m coming into this whole thing blind… I have always enjoyed writing though, so I’m going to give it a shot!
Hello Everyone!
July 20th, 2010The Blogging Mommy is… - Carla D’ Pace
Her Kiddos are… – beautiful step daughter Victoria
Her location is… – Surrey, Great Britain
How old are you now and how old are your munchkins? – I’m 22 years old, and Tori is 2
If you could describe your child in 3 words what would they be? – Smart, sweet, & a little clingy lol!
What’s an average day like for you these days? – Well I work full time, so we get up and get going for the day at 5am, get dressed and have breakfast. I’m out the door at 5:45am and Tori and daddy finish getting ready and leave around 6:15am. I get off work around 5:00, pick up Victoria from daycare and we usually get home around 5:30pm, have dinner, play together and then bath and bed time at 8.
Weekends are much more fun and games though!
If you had a day all to yourself (kid free & lottery financed) how would you spend it? – Shopping! lol! then Dinner at a expensive restaurant with my sweetheart and cath a cool theatre play
What would you say your parenting style is like? – pretty relaxed I think. But there are areas I feel really strongly about, specially when it comes to health and development, and I’m pretty strict on those!
What do you feel you have enough of in life? What do you want more of? Less of? – I have enough problems! lol! Now really, I have a lot of blessings in my life including my wondeful family and the fact that I feel I have achieved all my life goals so far (like career wise), and I’m very lucky to say we don’t lack anything material at least.
I would luuuv more time! I swear I need like 28 hours in one day to get everything done! . and I would like less “ex’s” drama! blah…
How “blended” is your family? Are you still with the dad of your kids? Who has whose last name? – We are a blended family, I don’t have any biological children yet, and Tori’s from Phillip’s first marriage. She’s with us 50% of the time, and in the last year our relationship has changed and grown like you wouldn’t believe! We went from almost completely strangers to great friends! (Thank goodness!) and DF likes that I’m actively involved with Victoria, and that just makes it so much greater! though it wasn’t easy at first to find my place there, trust me!
What are some of your pet peeves? – #1 it’s bad drivers! Jesus! another big one would be rude ppl in general.
What are the most unique things about yourself? – I’m a pretty open minded person, and I’m willing to try almost anything and everything in life! I’m also very loyal, and I’m proud of that!
I’m the most EMOTIONAL woman you’ll ever meet! I’m not sure that’s quite “unique” but I guess it’s a big part of what makes me, well ME! I’m also very romantic when I want to be, but that’s not too often hahaha.
And finally, what’s your writing/blogging style? – hmmm IDK, this if my first time blogging, so you tell me!